It could just be fun. Sometimes I had nothing in common with the guy but there was a sexual spark. In "real life", he was the ultimate knob. He didn't fit with my politics, my views, I'd never have introduced him to my friends. In bed, though, he was passionate, eager, energetic. For a while, we'd hook up every six weeks. But there were a lot of negatives. It could feel … seedy. Where do you go for sex? I didn't feel comfortable taking someone back to my place, as he'd then know where I lived, and I live alone.
If we went back to his, I'd have no idea what to expect. With "Aldgate East", we had to walk through a pub to get to the bedroom and I swear there was a train going through the lounge. You're trusting people you barely know. After a few dates with "Manchester", I agreed to visit his hotel room next time he was in London.
I'd always been diligent about practising safe sex, but he had trouble getting in the mood with the condoms and went against my wishes at the last moment. The next morning I wrote him an angry text.
I've never felt so violated. Most often, though, I didn't have sex at all. I generally left home open to the possibility but found, when my date showed up, that I didn't want to see him again, let alone see him naked. There was no spark, or he was dull or gross or just too pushy. One date chased me to the tube trying to shove his tongue down my throat. Another — who started promisingly — changed after his second drink, spilling a glass of wine on me without apologising, and cutting me off each time I spoke.
It can be harder to walk away when you've met through Tinder. When you're matched, you can spend days — in some cases, weeks, months — exchanging messages, texting and working yourselves up, filling in the gaps with your imagination. By the time you meet, you've both invested so much, you've raised your hopes and his. In some ways Tinder can even work against you finding a partner.
I met one guy who was a likely contender for a boyfriend. We went on five dates without sex, just a kiss and a hug. Then one night, he arrived at my place stinking of booze and likely high on something.
The sex was over in seconds — a massive anticlimax after such a build-up. We never saw each other again. If we'd met another way, that could have been a blip, an awkward beginning. On Tinder everything's disposable, there's always more, you move on fast. You start browsing again, he starts browsing — and you can see when anyone was last on it. If five days pass with no messaging between you, it's history.
At times, Tinder seemed less like fun, more like a gruelling trek across an arid desert of small talk and apathetic texting. More than once, I deleted the app, but always came back to it.
It was more addictive than gambling. I never dreamed I'd end up dating 57 men in less than a year. I'm off it now. Four months ago, I met a man — "Hackney Boy" — through Tinder and at first, I carried on seeing him and dating others. After a while, he wanted to get more serious. He's older than me and didn't want to waste time with Tinder any more. I had one last fling with "French Guy", then made a decision to stop.
What did Tinder give me? I had the chance to live the Sex and the City fantasy. It has made me less judgmental and changed my attitude to monogamy too. I used to be committed to it — now I think, if it's just sex, a one-night hook-up, where's the harm?
I'm more open to the idea of swinging, open relationships, which is something I'd never have expected. This can apply to casual relationships as much as serious ones: Being real friends-with-benefits requires the highest level of emotional honesty and communication in order to make the parameters of the relationship clear and avoid hurt feelings.
Your point that advertising this on your profile may elicit creepy messages is not an irrelevant one, but I do think for maximum efficiency you should be pretty clear that you are looking for something casual because of your existing commitments. And you do want someone who is very sex-positive. One option is to look for people with similar profiles to yours: If your tastes run to the kinky, you could also consider investigating in apps and sites that are more open about their focus on sex, such as Fetlife.
Once you do decide to meet people, remember to take the same precautions that you would if you were dating for more romantic reasons: Dear Eva, I am 37, a single mom and am looking to find someone , but not a boyfriend.
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Self-respect is valuable and valued. Do you care about my needs as much as you care about yours? Do you think I care about your needs as much as I care about mine? Would you expect me to care about your needs as much as I care about mine? This has nothing to do with men, women and sex. It has everything to do with human nature.
We care about our own needs more than we care about the needs of strangers or casual acquaintances. We can extend this even further.
I love my wife and care a lot about her needs. But I still know my own needs better than I know hers. More than 10 dates and I start to get concerned. The longest I waited was 2 months; then she left me. But it is very refreshing to hear from someone who cares. BUT, even after just a few drinks at the bar, if I suspect that fulfilling my needs or wants as the case may be might end up hurting you, I find it my moral duty to check first.
I am not directly responsible for you or for your well being but I feel that I owe you that much. I am not suggesting that women should relinquish responsibility for their sexual and emotional well being. I am simply replying to the specific comments you made. More caring in the world never hurt anyone! There clearly are men with this attitude. There seems to be lots of hypocrisy in their beliefs. I assume that you have the same right to take that risk as I do. Ruby Seems to me that a good number of women on this blog are fine with casual sex.
But given a hot guy and the right circumstances they would sleep with him without any sort of pre-defined commitment or pre-formed emotional bond.
I came to this conclusion from comments, cited articles, etc. Perhaps we should take a poll. Basically, this is just a subsection of the SLUT category. I was about to respond to this with sarcasm, but decided to go direct-route so that the message is not lost or diluted.
Women with good behaviors and morals will not sleep around on a very first date. Katie, I absolutely will not sleep with a woman on the first date. Maybe at the end of the second I might. I am completely serious.
My last experience which nicely presents my reasoning: Girl invited me over to her place on second date. I went to just talk. She invites me into bedroom to fuck. I decline and leave her due to her behaviors and motives not aligning with what I was looking for. Fast forward only 6months and she is pregnant by some new dude. Also I should mention she already had 2 kids with 2 different daddies. This is about comparability.
So the word slut in and of itself is wrong to use. It was my mistake and I was childish by not clearly articulating my post and writing quickly based on my emotional state at the time. You are correct that it was wrong of me to say it that way.
To be more specific with what you quoted me saying in bold: If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck and sounds like a duck, there really is only a small chance it is not going to behave like a duck. Most people fall in categories and it saves TIME by judging people in categories. Can a successful committed relationship by 2 morally sound people be had when they met each other in a 10 way gangbang? Extreme silly example just to make a point. How should a guy who seeks commitment and not lust handle dating?
Not just one spectrum actually.